Showing posts with label Things. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Things. Show all posts

Thursday, 9 August 2012

Self-Conscious People Are Thoroughly Reviled Just for Being Self-Conscious, Which Doesn't Help Things [Paranoia]

Self-Conscious People Are Thoroughly Reviled Just for Being Self-Conscious, Which Doesn't Help ThingsIn case you weren't awkward enough in the myriad of social situations you're violently tossed into throughout your daily routine, a new study from the London Business School into how people gossip about other people behind their backs will confirm all of your paranoid fantasies about your co-workers all conspiring to not invite you to Wednesday cookie cake night. Demonstrating a healthy, measured interest in what people are saying about you is fine, — advantageous, even — but if you're extremely self-conscious, your peers will think it's weird and talk about how weirdly self-conscious you are behind your back.

The study, which sports the pithy title "Do I want to know? How the motivation to acquire relationship-threatening information in groups contributes to paranoid thought, suspicion behavior and social rejection," figured out that nosy people really do lose their noses if they start fixating on what other people are saying about them. Lead researcher Jennifer Mason Carr and her colleagues found that, while gathering information reduces uncertainty and "gives people a greater sense of control and predictability over their environments," too zealous a search for information can be off-putting, prompting people who weren't gossiping about a colleague before to start gossiping about that person's obvious paranoia.

Researchers identified two types of information gatherers — "blunters," who avoid gathering information at all costs by putting their hands to their ears and humming "Flight of the Valkyries" at an unreasonable decibel, and "monitors," who root out information with the tenacity of pigs sniffing for truffles. Monitors are more likely, during their search for information about what other people are saying about them, to become paranoid and, as a result, incorrectly assess social situations. In bungling those social interactions, say the researchers, monitors often precipitate the very negative situations they're desperately trying to avoid. "Just like Oedipus!" exclaims Sigmund Freud, twirling a cigar from beyond the grave. The study authors explained that a monitor's paranoid thinking often becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy:

Drawing from theories of motivated social cognition and symbolic interactionism, we hypothesize that this motivation is associated with paranoid thought patterns and suspicion behaviors that can anger other group members and lead them to reject those who actively search for evidence that others are secretly trying to harm them.

In order to figure out how MARTI ("motivation to acquire relationship threatening information") affects people, researchers told 102 study participants to perform a certain task, suggesting that some members of the group were doing a better job or were in a "more advantageous position than other members. The participants were then asked if they wanted to exclude certain people from their imaginary endeavor. Anyone who possessed high MARTI qualities was, on average, 3.63 times more likely to be excluded, because nobody wants to hang around a grouchy old group-member like Pierce Hawthorne, who spends all his time recording conversations and thinking of ways to outsmart the very people whom he purportedly cooperates with.

If You Think Your Coworkers Are Talking About You, They Probably Are [Business Insider]

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Ultra-Orthodox Men Now Wearing Special Blinders to Avoid Seeing Sexy Things [Genderal Interest]

Ultra-Orthodox Men Now Wearing Special Blinders to Avoid Seeing Sexy ThingsFeeling tempted by scantily-dressed women on the bus, or sexy billboards by the side of the road? If you're an ultra-Orthodox man in Israel, you're in luck: you can now buy special blinders to prevent sin-enticing images from sneaking into your peripheral vision. As the Times of Israel reported yesterday, an organization called The Committee for Purity in the Camp is selling special stickers that the observant-but-easily-vulnerable-to-lady-business can wear on their eyeglasses. The stickers "blur vision of anything beyond the range of a few meters and so diffuse immodestly dressed women to a harmless blot." (If you don't wear glasses, the Purity Committee sells a non-prescription pair with stickers for the soul-saving bargain price of around $32.)

On the one hand, this is good news. As the Times notes, these eyeglasses mark a "change in tactics" in the Israeli ultra-Orthodox campaign against immodesty. Rather than forcing women to cover up (and spitting on eight year-olds with exposed forearms), these blinders place the onus for avoiding temptation where it belongs: on men. If the choice is between harassing women for displaying bare skin and turning men into carriage horses, the latter seems like the preferable option.

At the same time, these eyeglasses and their stickers send two toxic and unmistakable messages. First, women's bodies have such power to do harm that men need to partially blind themselves for protection. Second, men are totally incapable of exercising self-control. In the book of Job (Iyov in Hebrew) the title character says "I have made a covenant with my eyes; how then should I look lustfully at a girl?" A covenant is a promise sustained by faith, not by a crude device that impairs the senses. Deeply religious men usually have the ocular muscles to redirect their vision from that which might prove a solicitation to sin. Outsourcing that willpower to a pair of glasses makes the idea of self-control almost meaningless.

A pair of glasses that reduce rather than enhance vision is quite a novelty. And while these specs and stickers reinforce the myth that men are hopelessly weak, if we're forced into the false dichotomy between shaming women and blinding men, we might as well pick the latter.

Anti-Ogle Goggles for the Modest Set [Times of Israel]


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Sunday, 29 July 2012

10 Things You May Have Missed In TV This Week [Video]

10 Things You May Have Missed In TV This WeekIn this week's TV round up, Fred Willard explains himself, Louis C.K. wears a dress, Samantha Bee exposes the rebellious nature of nuns and Stephen Colbert demonstrates how the Bible and Fifty Shades of Grey are pretty much the same thing.

10 Things You May Have Missed In TV This Week 1.) Louis goes on a date with a very intense Parker Posey.
An interaction between Louis C.K. and Parker Posey is already a great thing, but then you put Louis in a dress and it's off the charts.

10 Things You May Have Missed In TV This Week 2.) It's always embarrassing when two people show up to the same event wearing the same thing...
One can only imagine that that embarrassment is amplified when the two people are Zach Galifianakis and Paul Shaffer and that event is The Late Show with David Letterman.

10 Things You May Have Missed In TV This Week 3.) Here's part three of Jimmy Fallon's delightful interview with Bill Cosby.
You can watch parts 1 and 2 here.

10 Things You May Have Missed In TV This Week 4.) Fred Willard on porno theaters: "They are great places to take a nap."
Fred Willard also stopped by Late Night this week to promote his new show, yes, but also to discuss the recent scandal where he was allegedly caught masterbating in a porno theater. To his credit, he handles the situation with as much grace as he possibly could.

10 Things You May Have Missed In TV This Week 5.) Watch it, Angie. Olympic weightlifter Holly Mangold is coming for your man.
We'll give her an 8 for chutzpah, but just a 3 for originality in choosing a crush.

10 Things You May Have Missed In TV This Week 6.) Some hotels are offering copies of Fifty Shades of Grey instead of Bibles.
But why do that, asks Stephen Colbert, when the books are pretty much the same thing?

10 Things You May Have Missed In TV This Week 7.) Speaking of religion Catholic nuns are going rogue.
U.S. nuns have been criticized by the Vatican for falling out of line and focusing too much on Christ's actual message. Samantha Bee reports.

10 Things You May Have Missed In TV This Week 8.) Just a reminder that Ed Helms is also a musical genius.
Legend has it that Ed Helms, who also has perfect pitch, can master practically any instrument. It's not hard to believe after watching him jam out on the banjo with Reggie Watts.

10 Things You May Have Missed In TV This Week 9.) London mayor Boris Johnson has a bit of an inferiority complex.
And Brian Williams is about to make it worse.

10 Things You May Have Missed In TV This Week 10.) Let's go out with a bit of Tennis.
If this music doesn't make you want to let your hair down and enjoy summer, I don't know what will.


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